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This essay continues our series on The Ten Paramis, taken from a talk given by Mark Donovan on February 10, 2026
This talk includes excerpts from Lila Kate Wheeler’s talk, Parami of Truthfulness: Living the Truth, Dharma Seed 2010-10-25. Here is my effort to be truthful: It’s almost 10 am Tuesday morning, this morning, and this talk is not yet composed, there’s confusion, a feeling of some anxiety and cold sweat with each minute that passes, awareness of a background narrative of unworthiness, a sense of being stuck. There’s some identification with this state - I AM these things - and yet I am also able to zoom out a bit and remember how these states historically arise and pass and to know deep down that I am much more than the mind objects presently arising. This makes me think of Buddha sitting under the bodhi tree assailed by Mara: you’re unworthy of becoming the buddha, you’re not worthy of being free. Maybe you can identify with that? Lila Kate Wheeler says: A big piece of the Buddha’s victory was being able to set aside that voice and go beyond it. She says: One way of interpreting the earth-touching mudra - when the Buddha touched the Earth and called on it to witness his right to enlightenment, to exist - was that he dropped down from the level of the thoughts in his mind to a different form of reality. We experience this ourselves when we anchor attention in the body, ground our attention in the body, just having something where we know we were distracted when thinking that we can come back to, gives us a sense of the relativity of this whole world of thought. That’s why we often emphasize the pause when you recognize you’re thinking, when you pause you’re no longer carried away by the stream of thoughts, you can actually take a stand somewhere else- touching earth, grounded. And then you get a choice how you’re going to relate to those thoughts. We’ve probably all had that experience of the thought balloon kind of popping and it was like being lost in a daydream and now I’m back to reality.
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This essay is the fourth in a series on The Ten Paramis, taken from a talk given by Carol Russell on February 3, 2026
We’re offering a series of talks on the ten paramis, the ten perfections, positive aspects of our character that support our individual practice and our living in the world. We’ve been inviting you to take one each week and apply it in your life, practice it in your life, maybe be challenged, maybe be transformed by it. So far we’ve covered dana, generosity, sila, ethical living, and nekkhamma, renunciation. If you recall from the intro to this series, we talked about two wings of the paramis: these ten qualities are rooted in both compassion and liberation, compassion and care for the world, and liberation from the greed, aversion, and ignorance of the unawakened mind. Tonight, I’m talking about the fourth parami – wisdom, pañña in Pali, prajña in Sanskrit. Some teachers like to translate pañña as insight, which helps to broaden the meaning for me. One way to think of this unfolding of the ten perfections is that, in the first three paramis, we’ve laid a foundation with opening our hearts with generosity, awakened skill for living in a way that doesn’t cause harm, and we’ve developed our capacity to let go in a wholesome way. Now, wisdom will be our guide in developing all of the paramis. Wisdom is a big topic in Buddhism. Buddhism is sometimes called a wisdom tradition or the path of wisdom. Wisdom has a superstar status in Buddhism. How to talk about the lofty subject of wisdom? Wisdom shows up uncountable times in the Pali Canon. It often comes up as references to being a wise person. I find it interesting to reflect on the difference between wisdom and being a wise person. Commonly, wisdom in our culture is seen as more than simple knowledge. Knowledge is important. We might think of knowledge as one ingredient in a recipe that also includes experience and understanding such that we are able to make good and beneficial decisions. Wisdom is the practical application of all we have learned and experienced about well-being, ethical living, and the long-term consequences of our actions. We can be wise about many things in life. This is the third in a series on The Ten Paramis, based on a talk offered by
Brenda Frechette at Prescott Insight Meditation, January 27, 2026 Let’s start out this evening with chanting the Karaniya Metta Sutta This sutta can be found in the Sutta Nipata (S.N. 1.8) There is an oral story passed down through the ages about the circumstances under which Buddha offered the Metta sutta instructions to 500 monks (500 in these stories just means A LOT). Buddhadhassa wrote the story down in a commentary in the 5th century. As the story goes these 500 monks were offered this beautiful grove for their 4 month rain retreat that year. The monks were welcomed in by the community nearby and even provided with small single meditation huts---so it seemed to be the perfect place for meditation. BUT soon they were assailed by difficult conditions that greatly challenged their concentration and ability to meditate. So they went to Ananda---Buddha’s main assistant and cousin—and asked for a different place to be found. Ananda conveyed this request to Buddha, who said the monks should remain at this site---but also gave them the teaching of the Karaniya Metta Sutta. Kariniya means “that which should be done” so this is a clear instruction by the Buddha of how to practice in difficult times and circumstances. The Metta sutta is considered a paritta---a protection practice---and could be considered a practice to develop resilience in turbulent times. So as we chant this sutta slowly, I would invite you to take in the instruction as the direct words of the Buddha: The Buddha’s Words on Loving-Kindness (English) (Now let us chant the Buddha’s words on loving-kìndness.) [This is what should bè done] By one whò is skílled in gòodness and who knows the pàth of peace: Let them bè able and úpright, Stràightforward and gentlé ìn speech, Humble and not concèited, Còntented and éasily sàtisfied, Unburdened with dùties and frugal ín thèir ways. Peaceful and calm, ànd wise and skíllful, Nòt proud and demánding in nàture. Let them not dò the slíghtèst thing That thè wise would latér rèprove, Wishing: In gladness ànd in sáfety, May àll beings bé àt ease. Whatever livìng beings there mày be, Whether thèy are wéak òr strong, omìtting none, The great or the mìghty, medium, shórt, òr small, The seen and the ùnseen, Those living near and fár àway, Those born and tò bé born, May àll beings bé àt ease. Let none deceivè ànòther Or dèspise anỳ being in ánỳ state. Let none through anger or ìll-will Wish hárm upon anòther. Even as à mother protects with hèr life Her child, her ònlý child, So with a bóundless heart Should òne cherish all lívìng beings, Radiating kíndness over thè entírè world, Spreading upwards to the skíes and dòwnwàrds tò thé depths, Outwards and unbòunded, Frèed from hátréd and ìll-will. Whether standing or wàlking, seated or lýìng down, Free from dròwsiness, One should sùstain this rècolléction. This is said tò be thè sublíme abìding. By not holding to fìxed views, Thè pure-héartèd one, having clarity of vìsion, Being freed fròm all sénse-desires, Is not bórn ágain intò this world. The following link will take you to the Parayana Vihara’s website and the chant book offered there: https://parayanavihara.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Chanting-Book.pdf These chants are provided in both Pali and translated into English by Amavarati—a western monastery in England in the Theravada Ajahn Chah tradition. This is the second in a series on The Ten Paramis, based on a talk offered by
Kenn Duncan at Prescott Insight Meditation, January 20, 2026 Following are words, ideas, teachings & thoughts borrowed from Gil Fronsdal (primarily), Jack Kornfield, Sharon Salzberg and Ajahn Chah. First, a quick overview of our tour of the 10 pāramīs. Again we have: dana-generosity, Sila-ethical conduct, nekkhamma-renunciation, Pañña-wisdom, Viriya-effort or energy, Khanti-patience, Sacca-truthfulness, Adhitthana- resolve or determination, Metta-lovingkindness and Epekkha-equanimity. All of these are qualities of the heart that can be part of our practice anytime, in anyplace. The second stop on our tour tonight is Sila. There are many translations of Sila: ethical conduct, Virtue, discipline and morality, among others. There’s a lot of discussion about ethics, virtue and morality in our country, AND in the world right now. These have a lot to do with some of the most interesting aspects of human life: money, power, greed, sex, pleasure, relationships just to name a few . It can be a heavy lift, a heavy subject, particularly in a spiritual setting. In our lives we’re constantly surrounded by questions, and challenged to explore our own virtue all the time, turn on the television or the radio or look over social media and it's everywhere, lots of ethical challenges and issues. To look at ethical sensibility is to hopefully connect with something that's deep in each individual person. And one of the core issues in our spiritual life is that it becomes essential to harmonize our core inner values with our behavior and how we live. How we act, based on our inner values has to do with ethics and virtue. At the depth of Sila is the spirit of non-harming. Joseph Goldstein: “goodness in general.” The Sri Lankan monk Walpola Rahula notes that ethical conduct or Sila is “built on the vast conception of universal love and compassion for all living beings, on which the Buddha’s teaching is based." While on the list of the paramis, Sila is also an integral part of the eightfold path, something for another talk another time, but it’s one of the 3 baskets of the path which includes sīla-samādhi-pañña, ethical conduct, mind training, and wisdom. Born from Sila, as kind of a guideline, are the five precepts: THE FIVE PRECEPTS I undertake: 1. to abstain from taking life/killing (harming) 2. to abstain from taking what is not given/stealing 3. to abstain from sensuous/sexual misconduct 4. to abstain from false speech/lying 5. to abstain from intoxicants as tending to cloud the mind or leading to heedlessness This essay is the first of a series on The Ten Paramis, and is based on a talk given by Mark Donovan at Prescott Insight Meditation on January 13, 2026
Last week Carol gave an overview and introduction to the paramis, which we will be exploring together over the next ten weeks. The paramis are ten noble, virtuous qualities that we can cultivate in our daily lives. While the entire list is not found together as a whole in the Pali canon– the oldest Buddhist texts in which our tradition is based– these qualities are referred to individually in the suttas. The paramis found their fruition in the Mahayana tradition and the ideal of the bodhisattva, a spiritual practitioner who is devoted to liberation from suffering for all beings. The word paramii derives from parama, "supreme," and suggests the eminence of the qualities. Paramita, the word preferred by the Mahayana texts and also used by Paali writers, is sometimes explained as ‘gone to the beyond," and indicates the transcendental direction of these qualities. As Carol noted, cultivating the paramis leads us in the direction of both compassion and liberation. Tonight I will talk about dana paramis. Sean Oakes, a Spirit Rock teacher, says it can be helpful to distinguish between the Pali words for giving (dana) and generosity (caga). “Generosity is an emotion and an intention, while giving is the action that follows, bringing our intention to fulfillment. Generosity turns our attention away from what we can get and keep for ourselves toward what we can offer to others. The emotion of generosity contains aspects of all the brahmaviharas –lovingkindness, compassion, joy and equanimity– as we feel how easily we can help others in need, and how much satisfaction it can give us. Bringing generosity into form as giving asks us not to just wish well for others but act to support their well-being.” Gil Fronsdal says the practice has two important functions: “First, it helps connect us with others and with ourselves. Giving creates a relationship between the giver and receiver, so acts of generosity help us to learn more about the nature of our relationships. It also develops those relationships. Practicing generosity together with a meditation practice helps ensure that our spiritual practice doesn’t occur aloof from others. Second, through the practice of generosity we begin to understand where we are closed, where we are holding back, where we feel our fear. We learn what keeps us from being generous. We take on the practice to see where we resist it.” The Buddha says: And what is the accomplishment of generosity? Here, a noble disciple dwells at home with a mind free from stinginess, freely generous, open-handed, delighting in relinquishment, one devoted to charity, delighting in giving and sharing. Dana was the first teaching the Buddha shared with a practitioner because he considered it the most accessible and practical, the most easily practiced, and the most beneficial. Practicing dana cultivates joy, softens attachment, builds interconnectedness, and fosters happiness by letting go. The Buddha typically followed a series of steps in what is referred to as a gradual or graduated training, anupubbasikkha in Pali, because each step progressively builds on the prior one and advances one’s spiritual path. This was originally intended as a curriculum for monks and nuns. The first step is dana, followed by sila/ethics/nonharming, then mindfulness and concentration, and so on with teaching of the Four Noble Truths much further down the list. This essay is based on a talk given at Prescott Insight Meditation by Carol Russell on January 6, 2026.
Once upon a time, an immeasurably long time ago, an ascetic named Sumedho heard that an awakened Buddha named Dipankara was teaching in a nearby village. When Sumedho arrived, he saw a procession of people honoring this enlightened being. He glimpsed Dipankara Buddha and was immediately moved by his ‘noble bearing.’ In that moment, Sumedho realized that to become enlightened would be of benefit to the world and he made a vow on the spot to become a Buddha in a future life. And it’s important to note here that he made a vow not just for himself, but for all beings – the Boddhisatva vow. The Boddhisatva vow – to work for the liberation of all beings – is emphasized in the Mahayana tradition, but according to some scholars, has roots in the Theravadan as well. There was Sumedha on the street – struck by this great being before him. Seeing Dipankara Buddha about to walk through a mud puddle, Sumedho threw himself into the mud so that Dipankara and his sangha could walk over his body rather than get their feet dirty. As the great teacher passed the prone Sumedho, he read Sumedho’s thoughts and aspiration to become a Buddha, and predicted this vow would be realized at ‘a time four incalculables and a hundred thousand eons in the future.’ Sumedho traveled back to his cave and wondered. ‘How can I make this vast journey? What aspects of the mind and heart do I need to develop in order to become a Buddha?’ He saw there were ten wholesome qualities that he would need to develop: Generosity (Dana), Ethics (Sila), Renunciation (Nekkhamma), Wisdom (Pañña), Energy (Viriya), Patience (Khanti), Truthfulness (Sacca), Determination (Adhitthana), Loving-kindness (Metta), and Equanimity (Upekkha) He then began the journey of innumerable lifetimes to develop the perfections of heart and mind that finally unfolded in his full enlightenment as Gotama Buddha under the bodhi tree in Northern India more than 2500 years ago. This is a beautiful parable about the origins of the paramis and how the Buddha made the Ten Paramis a part of his practice over many lifetimes. This story appears in the Sutta Pitaka, which is viewed by scholars to be later additions to the Pali Canon. One scholar writes that although the Buddha spoke often about these ten qualities, they don’t appear as a list of paramis in the texts that are believed to be the words of the Buddha. And yet, from the early years of Buddhism, the paramis were considered essential elements of the path. It appears likely the list was created by people a few hundred years after the Buddha as they pondered the question, what aspects of the heart and mind will help me make this journey to awakening? In the Mahayana branch of Buddhism there are six paramis – often called the paramitas. The paramitas are considered the center of the Mahayana path, even the entire path. Shantideva wrote a classic text about the paramis as an entire path in the 8th c called Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way. This text is beloved by the Dalai Lama, who wrote a commentary on it called A Flash of Lightning in the Dark of Night. I find it helpful to have a bit of this history and background of the paramis to deepen my understanding of the importance of these teachings. An essay adapted from a talk given by Carol Russell on December 2, 2025
I hope you all enjoyed Thanksgiving Day. In many ways it is my favorite holiday. For me, it’s all about getting together with loved ones and giving thanks. I like that there is no exchanging of gifts. For my whole life it has been a strong tradition in my family to gather and spend the day together preparing and enjoying a wonderful meal. The details of the family tradition have evolved over the years, and who is available to get together has changed, but there is a core tradition that has held. In light of that, I’ve been thinking of the dharma as a tradition. If you were here for Brenda’s talk last week, we went on a journey of how Buddhism has spread through the world over the millennia. She gave an overview of some of the broad differences between the different branches of Buddhism. To last for 2500 years, Buddhism is clearly a strong tradition. I like to imagine the world the Buddha was born into. It was primarily an agricultural society, which is why we have so many beautiful agrarian similes in the suttas. The first cities and large kingdoms were being established. Metallurgy had just been discovered. Written language was not widely used for religious or literary purposes. This is a society almost unimaginably different from ours, with our access to world travel, mass communication, information at our fingertips, and a society centered around industry. A few years ago, Grace Burford and I gave a talk on the evolution of Buddhism, and how, as Buddhism spread from northern India, to virtually all over the world, it has always been influenced and changed by the cultures it found itself in. Some Western scholars of the late 19th and early 20th c had the hubris to believe they could strip Buddhism of all its cultural ‘baggage’ and get to the ‘real’ teaching of the Buddha. This, of course, is impossible, as we now have a better understanding of the fact that one is always influenced by a point of view, a conceptual framework, that comes from the culture we are in. An essay adapted from a talk given by Carol Russell, October 7, 2025
We often acknowledge sangha as one of the three jewels, one of the places we can go to for refuge. What does it mean for the sangha to be a refuge – especially when the world around you may feel less safe? Is the sangha a sanctuary, a place blessedly free of outside concerns? A place for finding sympathetic support for practice? A place for enduring spiritual friendship? What role does the sangha play if we feel called by our ethical practice to engage with the suffering we see in the world around us? The message of these teachings is that it is possible to have a heart free of greed, hatred, and delusion. I find walking this path gives my life a deep sense of meaning – which could be summed up in many ways. One way I have been reflecting on this meaning is that I am developing my heart, I am learning how to love the world. There is depth and breadth to this practice of learning how to love the world. What the Buddha taught is a love that is directed unconditionally toward all beings. Not because of how they are, but simply because they are. This is a tall order these days when I am surrounded by news of hateful acts, unimaginable loss, and devastating suffering. The media bombards us with suffering. As Diana Clark, one of the teachers on my recent retreat, points out, with our easy access to media, you could easily be in touch with suffering all day. It can be very challenging to be discerning of what we expose ourselves to, what opens our hearts yet doesn’t undermine our sense of our fundamental humanity. That is why this is a practice, something I feel I must attend to if I wish to learn to love the world. From a dharma talk given by Kenn Duncan, Sept. 23, 2025
So let’s start this talk with a short common definition of engaged buddhism, or sometimes you’ll hear socially engaged buddhism: in general the term references the movement of applying Buddhist solutions or teachings, or practice to social, political and ecological problems. Definition of this action was sort of acknowledged and further developed in the latter half of the 20th century. The actual term engaged buddhism is credited to the Vietnamese Zen Monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, he sort of coined it to describe his and others work to try and bring about peace during a time of great turmoil and war in his home country. So the concept of engaged Buddhism is to lower suffering and oppression of all beings through the transformation of unjust and repressive social and political constructs, while not losing sight of the emphasis on inward spiritual growth. The Buddha’s teachings guide us to study our own human experience so that we can develop the wisdom that brings liberation from suffering and manifests lovingkindness and compassion toward other beings and their suffering. So engaged buddhism might (as Thich Nhat Hanh says) just be buddhism, buddhism we bring off the cushion and into the world in the form of social service, working with those who are suffering, working on programs that emphasis compassion, engaging in helpful professions or just simply bringing mindfulness into our daily lives and to those around us. Carol pointed out the importance of idea of interdependence in Buddhism in her talk last week (everything being connected) and this made me think that this interdependence is a key aspect in the suffering we see in the world. It’s possible to suffer as a result of social conditions or natural circumstances like poverty, injustice, oppression, natural disaster and other conditions that might arise in a collective way, one thing affecting another, one person affecting another. So if this, than dukkha/suffering does need to be addressed also in a collective way to remove these conditions for all beings in our worlds. This can feel daunting and overwhelming if we start to look at the weight and the extent of all the suffering of even just ourselves, much less the entire world. So how do we take our practice off the cushion and into the world and will it make a difference? (The other internal battle, can I, will I make a difference?) I truly believe the answer is yes. by Carol Russell An essay adapted from a Dhamma talk given September 9, 2025 This talk is based on the Fifth invitation from the book, The Five Invitations, Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully by Frank Ostaseski. I’ve been using each invitation as an inspiration for an exploration about the Dhamma. ‘Don’t know mind’ is a very Zen expression. Don’t know mind, beginner’s mind. Suzuki Roshi wrote a book called Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind. He famously said, ‘In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few.’ That is a quote I have had hanging in my studio for years. It helps me as an artist to remember not to be too certain, not to think I know how a piece will be when it is finished. Sure, I have a vision and I make use of all my skill, but if I also have a beginner’s mind, then I’m open to where a piece might want to go. There’s magic in that and it shows in how often a painting will end up surprising and delighting me. Alternately, if I cling to some image of how it should be and I end up struggling to achieve that vision, the process is often much less enjoyable. I’ll mention what don’t know mind is not. Don’t know mind isn’t ignorance. Like many of you, I value my education, my training, my experience. I value learning through my life experiences and putting my knowledge and learning into practice. Frank Ostaseski writes that ‘ignorance is usually thought of as the absence of information, being unaware. Sadly, it is more that just ‘not knowing.’ It means that we know something, but it is the wrong thing. Ignorance is misperception.’ He goes on to offer this beautiful definition of don’t know mind: Don’t know mind is not limited by agendas, roles, and expectations. It is free to discover. When we are filled with knowing, when our minds are made up, it narrows our vision, obscures our ability to see the whole picture, and limits our capacity to act. We only see what our knowing allows us to see. The wise person is both compassionate and humble and knows that she does not know. by Carol Russell
An essay adapted from a Dhamma talk given August 5, 2025. Welcome everyone. The title of this talk is the fourth invitation from the book, The Five Invitations, Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully. I’ve been using each invitation as inspiration for a talk. If you’re interested in the subject, do seek out the book – I know some of you have. I have been taking each invitation as an inspiration and making it my own, but there is more in the book, plus many stories from the author’s work in hospice. The title of this invitation - Find a Place of Rest in the Middle of Things – I find brings on a kind of settling, a quieting, a peacefulness. There are many reasons we are practitioners of insight meditation or another spiritual or mindfulness practice. Some of our reasons may be conscious, some based on unquestioned assumptions. Yet, I would dare to guess that the desire to have the skills to find a place of rest, to have experiences of peace, in the midst of our lives is something most of us share. I know it’s on my list. Raise your hand if it’s on yours. What is rest? For me, after a busy and active day, it feels so good to come home and rest. Or when I go camping in nature or stay in a cabin on a creek, it is restful to be away from the tasks and projects I have in Prescott. Or when a big task is completed – ‘now I can rest and enjoy myself,’ I think. And I do. It’s rejuvenating to complete things. I also find it really useful to consider, what is the assumption behind these thoughts? Am I imagining that rest is about changing circumstances? Is rest something that’s only available once everything else is complete? If that is the case, moments of rest will be few and far between – a kind of singular event in the midst of life – or maybe out of reach. What if a place a rest is within, available most any time, and not dependent on getting the right conditions arranged? What if this place of rest is a reliable part of life? by Carol Russell
Adapted from a talk given at Tuesday night meditation on July 1, 2025 This talk is based on the third invitation in Frank Ostaseski’s book, The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully. This is the third talk in this exploration of the book in which I have been using each invitation as a stepping off point for an exploration of the Dhamma. The invitation here is to bring your whole self to the experience of life. The author writes beautifully about how this applies to the processes of dying and death, whether yours or someone you love, and how it applies to grief. Most certainly, in light of the subtitle of the book, this invitation applies to bringing our whole self to each day of life, to each moment. This is an encouragement to include the parts of ourselves that don’t look good, or reveal we don’t have it all together. In a way you could think of the last talk I gave, Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing, as how we receive the circumstances of life, how we open to what is coming in. This talk is an exploration of what we bring to the circumstance arising in life. the invitation is to bring our whole selves to our experience. Frank Ostaseski writes: "…more than once I have found an undesirable aspect of myself, one about which I had previously felt ashamed and kept tucked away, to be the very quality that allowed me to meet another person’s suffering with compassion instead of fear or pity… It is not our expertise, but rather the wisdom gained from our own suffering, vulnerability, and healing that enables us to be of real assistance to others." by Carol Russell
Adapted from a talk given at Tuesday night meditation on June 3, 2025 The title of my talk tonight comes from the second invitation in Frank Ostaseski’s book, The Five Invitations. Similar to my last talk, in which I used the first invitation from his book for a talk entitled ‘Don’t Wait,’ I will use the point of view of welcoming everything and pushing away nothing as a jumping off place for this exploration of the Dhamma. Welcome everything, push away nothing – what are we welcoming and why would we want to do that? I don’t know about you, but I have a very old habit of trying to improve or ‘fix’ what I don’t like, and that often involves a lot of pushing and grasping, and not a lot of welcoming. Does that sound familiar to anyone? There is nothing inherently wrong with making things better, but when we leap into that habit as soon as things get uncomfortable, does it limit us? Life is both lovely and awful. Both sweet and terrifying. Why would we want to move closer to ALL of life, especially when it is uncomfortable? Why not move closer ONLY to the joyful, peaceful, and positive parts of life? Why not hang out only with the people who make us feel good and avoid the rest? The Dhamma teaches that denying or pushing away our experience is a sure path to suffering. It is right there in the Four Noble Truths. Clinging to what is pleasurable and pushing away what is unwanted is so human, yet it is a limiting and stressful way of living. Welcome everything, push away nothing. It’s not that we only welcome the nice thoughts and feelings. And it’s also not like we should focus only on the uncomfortable stuff, although the negative bias of our brains sometimes goes down that road. We don’t have to like the ‘everything.’ Everything includes what we like, what we don’t like, what’s boring, what’s pleasurable and not pleasurable and all the in-between. Does this mean we are a doormat, letting every person or experience walk all over us, and welcoming it? Nope. Paradoxically, being utterly receptive means we are free. Free to respond skillfully and responsively. Free to set boundaries. Free to pursue what is in line with our highest aspirations. As Frank Ostaseski writes, ‘Acceptance is not resignation. It is an opening to possibility.’ Have you ever noticed how if we are rejecting parts of our experience, that takes a lot of energy and focus? Keeping up a persona takes a lot of energy. Yet, through a lifetime we have perhaps believed that was the way to well-being. It can be exhausting. As we loosen up our clinging and attempts to control our experience, we learn our well-being is not completely tied to external circumstances, and then maybe we feel a bit more centered in ourselves, a little more resilient, and we get more adept at meeting every little bit of life as it comes our way. This is very a very practical and useful way to be. And we move closer to the mystery of what it is to be human, and rather than one sliver of the pie, we open the whole range of possibilities available to us in this embodied earthly life. by Carol Russell
Adapted from a talk given at Prescott Insight Meditation on May 6, 2025 My Mom died three weeks ago. She died the way she lived, with a good measure of love, and honesty, acceptance, and a sense of wonder. Not that it was easy. Death is hard work. Accompanying her on this journey – from 11 years ago when she had her first stroke to the final week when she took to her bed – has been a priceless honor. Although we miss her very much, how she died is a profound part of the gift she leaves her family and the people who cared for her. What does death have to offer those of us left behind? What does death have to offer the living? Death has the potential to inform us – and to transform us. Some of us have had death touch us recently, as I have, or we are aging and feeling it, or we have a diagnosis that makes death a little more tangible. But really, we are all on the edge of death. How many of us think death will happen later – sometime in the distant future? The truth is death can come any moment. If not us imminently, it could be someone we love very much. This is what the Dhamma teaches us. The Buddha encouraged this kind of reflection, conceptually and experientially, not as a theoretical idea, but to touch into the reality of change and endings, life and death. This kind of study penetrates to the level that it penetrates for each of us, perhaps touching us more profoundly as our practice deepens. Foundational to our mindfulness practice is the question we can bring to whatever is arising in our lives: what is my relationship to it? What is my relationship to dying and death? Maybe we recoil. Maybe we’re curious. Some face the truth of the end of life with a comforting story of something beyond. Perhaps we have decided we will think about death when we are older. Our relationship to death is very personal. by Mark Donovan
From a talk given at Prescott Insight Meditation, April 8, 2025 Tonight I’d like to explore anger - understanding it with a little more nuance. What is anger? What is anger for each of us? I’ll offer some reflections. Is it good or bad? And how do we practice with it - the other important question. This talk is inspired by a recent experience I had with a work colleague where I reacted with anger to a perception that this person was dissembling about their understanding of current events. I had regrets about my reaction, apologized, and we have since repaired the relationship. However, the intensity of my emotion scared me, so I met with a counselor to explore what happened. He helped me to see that underneath the anger was a lot of fear related to my perceptions: the undermining of democratic norms, public health, national security, bullying and alienating longtime geopolitical allies, nihilistic destruction of government from a president I view as having an appetite for unlimited power. In my previous role as an occupational therapist I facilitated anger management groups at the Albuquerque VA, a common “problem” emotion for persons with PTSD and hyperarousal, overactivation of the sympathetic nervous system. Excessive anger can cause health problems and relational problems. This talk includes material and insights from Zohar Lavie of Gaia House and Donald Rothberg who teaches at Spirit Roth. Both of them suggest that this is a really important and underexplored topic in western Buddhism today –that western Buddhists have a lot of confusion about anger. An important topic for our times and the interplay between our practice and present social realities. Rothberg notes the core teaching of dependent origination in which it’s said if we’re not mindful of what’s difficult and painful, and when we’re organized by habitual tendencies, we go into reactivity, we use various ways to push away pain including being judgmental, rigid, having views. Anger can quickly go into negative views about others and about ourselves. He notes how many people in the US harbor anger, maybe it’s about economic hardship or confusion about changing gender roles, and when people don’t skillfully work with their pain it’s easy to manipulate them–whether we call it scapegoating, divide and conquer, whatever. by Brenda Frechette
A dharma talk given February 18, 2025 (As you may know, I don’t usually write out my talks, but I did get some requests for info on what I discussed on Feb 18, so I recreated it in writing. A bit more pedantic than when I talk, but hopefully helpful!) I’ve been in Nepal and India for the last month and just got back a week ago. I’ll talk about that some in this talk, but I first want to acknowledge that I’ve been feeling that the world is chaotic and uncertain right now. I stayed in touch with what was happening in the news by reading the New York Times but last night I watched the news on tv! Perhaps seeing and hearing it through another’s tone and reaction resulted in me feeling even more anxious…so I wanted to own that and talk about how my meditation practice helps me to manage anxiety around things I don’t feel comfortable with and am unable to control. I also want to note that we make an effort in this sangha to welcome all opinions and views—but I think we do find common ground in wanting to react to distress with compassion and kindness. Acknowledging helpfulness of Centering and prayer—and action: Following is a Thich Naht Hahn story about the Vietnamese boat people fleeing Vietnam by sea after the Vietnam War ended in 1975: "When the crowded Vietnamese refugee boats met with storms or pirates, if everyone panicked, all would be lost. But if even one person remained centered and calm on the boat, they showed the way for everyone else to survive.” I came across this lovely Jewish prayer recently that I found supports me in keeping grounded and not falling into crippling despair when I view the chaos in the world. I like how it emphasizes staying centered in the storm so one has both the capacity to not turn away from difficulty and choose right action when appropriate. It follows: Perhaps
for a moment… A hush will fall over the land. For an instant, in the stillness The chiming of the celestial spheres will be heard As earth hangs poised in the crystalline darkness, and then gracefully tilts. Stunned to stillness by beauty We remember who we are and why we are here. There are inexplicable mysteries. We are not alone. The cosmos enfolds us. We are caught in a web of stars, Cradled in a swaying embrace, Rocked by the night In the unceasing rhythm of the Universe From darkness towards light. (Adapted from Rebecca Ann Parker's poem Winter Solstice) by Mark Donovan
A dharma talk given December 17, 2024 Tonight I’d like to explore our practice through a lens of courage. Courage — from the French word, coeur, heart. Recent talks by our group of teachers have explored the experience of uncertainty that is arising for many of us in these times of rapid change — and how uncertainty can seed a sense of danger and feelings of fear. Fear is an afflictive emotion, some say the root of the three poisons: clinging, aversion, and delusion. In Brian Lesage’s talk on uncertainty, he pointed to how fear can be constricting when it gets the upper hand — when we avoid and withdraw into a protective stance, life gets cramped and small. As the writer Elena Ferrante puts it in one of her novels: Everything in the world is in precarious balance, pure risk, and those who don’t agree to take the risk waste away in a corner, without getting to know life.” Ken, Brenda and Carol all suggested how challenging it can be for us to hang out in a place of groundlessness, of not knowing. Our nervous systems evolved to keep us safe and to find security in the predictable; we want answers to our questions but may have to wait patiently for them to be revealed in their own time. We might say that learning to be more comfortable with uncertainty is exactly what this practice is all about. Pema Chodron’s teachings are all about this. Just listen to her book titles : The Places That Scare You, When Things Fall Apart, Comfortable With Uncertainty, The Wisdom of No Escape. Last week Carol suggested another response to uncertainty, one of opening to the mystery and wonder of life as it arises moment–by-moment, perhaps a continuation of her talk on improvisation, of responding to whatever life may present to us with, “Yes, and…” as we join in the dance. Courage is a quality that feels important and useful for facing the challenges of uncertainty and change. Courage is not a quality that appears on any of the Theravadin Buddhist lists. It is not one of the 37 awakening or liberating qualities. But although it is given little status on its own in the scriptural writings, I believe it is a quality that we manifest often in many different ways in our practice — this practice that aims at the unshakeable release of the heart, the coeur. In its earliest forms, courage meant "to speak one's mind by telling all one's heart". Heart and mind together. To me this sounds a lot like the meaning of the Pali word citta, which refers to the heart-mind, not separate but one. Merriam Webster defines courage as mental or moral strength to venture, persevere and withstand danger, fear or difficulty. Another definition includes a quality of spirit — spiritual strength. So we can think of courage as mental, moral and spiritual strength to persevere in the face of fear, danger and difficulty. by Kenn Duncan
A dharma talk given December 3, 2024 As we fast approach the end of yet another year, there is a lot of contentiousness, and division in our world. And along with that, a lot of worry or insecurity about our future, depending on your outlook. Politically, socially, environmentally, many of us find the direction of our world filled with uncertainty. This storm, this deluge, can flood us with emotions. I have many friends who are questioning everything, and really want to know answers now. It’s said that when asked questions about enlightenment, or what happens after death, or, or, or… Ajahn Chah would smile and say “It’s uncertain, isn’t it?” I was remembering the uncertainty we all faced just a few years back with the pandemic and how it became an opportunity for us to befriend our fears, be compassionate with them, and radiate this compassion to those around us. And many people did just that, and many of us have this opportunity once more. We can only work with and make decisions in this moment, only with the information that we know and understand. We have to let go of the worry of what could be or what might happen. The world is changing around us, always has been, always will be and it can be a little scary for us all. by Kenn Duncan
A dharma talk given November 26, 2024 We have this holiday coming this week, something I’m reminded constantly by my good friends from England that we only celebrate here in the U.S. It’s a bit of a strange holiday when you trace it’s origins, and it’s become a time when some people do take the time to stop (just before the deluge of the next holiday, Christmas, and all that brings) and share thankfulness, gratitude. I like the name of this holiday — Thanksgiving — because it sort of holds the idea of both giving and receiving. 'Thanks' and 'Giving' carry this sort of wonderful mutuality of giving and receiving. It's an expression of appreciation and even an expression of kindness, to give thanks and to be thanked. There's a story about Siddhartha Buddha, after he was enlightened, that he spent a lot of time gazing day and night the Bodhi tree under which he was enlightened, in gratitude of the tree. The protection and the support it gave him for this amazing experience of freedom and presence that he discovered. The Buddha didn't teach much about gratitude specifically, but it is said that he made the statement that no one is injured in feeling gratitude. This idea that no one is injured, that you won't be injured in feeling gratitude is a wonderful thought. I started something with my daughter when she was little, especially after a rough day. After she would share her difficulties or struggles, I’d ask her to share something that may have happened that she was happy or grateful for. In a short time we’d just start sharing with each other things we were grateful for pretty much every day. I’ve taken this with me to this day. At the end of the day, usually my final meditation includes a run down of all the things that may have happened that lifted me up, or made me smile, or made me feel good or grateful. The idea of doing this is not to do it forcefully or pretend things are better than they are. The idea is to really reflect on what we genuinely appreciate. |
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